It’s me… the older, much more mature, and sexier version of yourself. I know you are only 15 years old right now, but someday you will be 30ish and I think you should know a couple of things to make your journey to womanhood a lot more enjoyable.
We both know your the things that have happened to you prior to your 15th year of life, but let’s discuss your future. You will experience a hell of a lot more and some situations may seem tough; like you may never escape them, but I promise you will. Just take every experience as a lesson and learn from it all. So here are some tips from me to me…
1. To avoid disappointment, lower your expectations:
Now, that does not mean to lower your standards. It just means that you should not expect so much of one person. YOU WILL BE DISAPPOINTED. We tend to hold people to the same expectations that we hold ourselves to, but just because you would jump in front of a speeding bus for someone does NOT mean that they will do the same for you. Just accept people for who they are and you will eliminate disappointment by about 75%.
2. Go easy on yourself:
You are going to make mistakes. Learn to not be so hard on yourself. Make the mistake and then move on. Leave it in the past. But never turn your back on yourself. Understand that this is all apart of personal growth and try not to make the same mistake twice.
3. Save your money, save your money, and save your money:
Girl! I know no one ever taught us about money growing up. They should really make it a requirement, starting with middle school, to take classes on money management. Invest it, save in a 401k, and stay away from credit cards…okay maybe just one; BUT keep the balance down. Do all of this and you can buy a house and have a nice car, with minimal stress when it comes to payments.
4. If someone wants to walk away from you, let them:
DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT chase anyone! You are such a wonderful person. You have a big heart and you only live to show love to others. You are a rare breed and if they cannot see that, then let them go. Do not waste your time with someone who cannot see how special you are. You can still love them, but love them from afar. Some times they come back around and realize what they lost. If you feel like they deserve a second chance, then give it to them. Otherwise, thank them for coming to their senses and wish them well.
5. Stay close to God:
He is the only one who will ever give you that unconditional love you are looking for. Everyone else’s love comes with conditions, rules, restrictions…whatever you want to call it. But His love is the one true love that you will need to make it through the tough situations you will face over the next 15 years. Pray, read your Bible, and find a church where you feel at home. God is the only one who can give us what we need.
6. Love yourself:
Never allow anyone to bring you down and make you think less of yourself. Love yourself even when you don’t feel like loving anyone and even when it feels like no one loves you. Stay confident in yourself. Always choose yourself.
I hope these tips help you and I pray that you come out a lot wiser than I am today. Stay close to certain friends, you will need them in the long run and they will need you just as much. I love you and I hope that you love me too.