“One of the hardest decisions you will ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder.” – unknown
Over the years, life has presented me with some pretty shitty situations. Life has its ups and downs and can go from comfortable to uncomfortable in a matter of seconds. We are hurt by friends, strangers, lovers, and even family members. We can also hurt ourselves; by making stupid choices in life. But how do we let the past, stay in the past?
I have had many experiences in life and met a lot of people. Some are still in my life and others are not. One thing that they all have in common, is that they all taught me something important. They added value to my life in some way.
They all taught me the value of:
regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).
Along with self love, you must also learn to forgive yourself for all of the dumb mistakes you made. In the past, I could not love myself, because I was always beating myself up over the mistakes that I had made in the past. Or for not being where I thought I should be, at whatever age I was at during that time.
I spent a whole year pretty much by myself, in a state where I had no family or friends, and I focused on myself. I took myself to dinner, I explored the city I was in, I went to concerts with people I did not know, and I just did what I wanted. I had a lot of sleepless nights, crying, and talking to myself. But that year was one of the most vital years of my life. I was 24 years old and my own worse critic.
Now at 31, I am my biggest fan. I still beat myself up over mistakes, because let’s be honest…we will always continue to make mistakes. But now I tell myself, it is okay, let’s focus on NOT making that mistake again girl!
In life, we must learn to play the cards we are dealt. It may not always seem fair, but we never know what the next person is going through. We must be positively fearless when it comes to living our lives and we must listen to our inner voice.
Here are 5 of the best pieces of advice I could ever give you:
- Be your own best critic and your #1 fan.
- Be humbly braggadocios about your accomplishments.
- Keep your goals to yourself.
- Keep 1-2 accountability partners in your circle.
- Let it go!